Day 2 – My Word Search
Last week we learned about the ability to change your mindset. Isn’t your brain amazing? Hopefully you and your kids were able to pump some brain iron by sticking with hard things!
This week we have a brain challenge to keep the strength training going! There are two word searches with growth mindset words inside each. Some words might be harder than others to find, encourage your child not to give up! We challenge you to work with your kids on these and talk about what the words mean. Use the time during the word searches to ask your child, when was a time you felt brave? Or talk to them about a time you had to be persistent!
Happy strength training!
Until next week, Be Wise!
As some of you may know, Netflix has released a second season of 13 Reasons Why. We wanted to share some information with you in case you are unsure about how to discuss the important topics that arise from this series. If your child(ren) plans to watch the new season, or plans to start from the beginning, we highly recommend you watch with them. Here are few topics and issues you may wish to discuss as situations depicted in the show can be upsetting. As always, reach out to us if you have questions, and/or need support!
And Be Wise!
We see kids, teens (and, sometimes, parents) with anxiety on a daily basis at The Wise Family. But even though we see folks reporting anxiety all the time, a 2015 Child Mind Institute study reported that 80% of kids with a diagnosable anxiety disorder are not getting treatment.
Anxiety disorders actually affect one in eight children. And some amount of anxiety is considered a normal part of childhood, and the phases are usually temporary. But children who suffer from an anxiety disorder experience fear, nervousness, and shyness, and they start to avoid places and activities.
It is hard for parents to know which behaviors are the temporary kind, and which are the more serious anxiety-disorder-kind. We use a variety of assessments and impressions to make a diagnosis, and you can do some detective work on your own (we call that CSI of the MIND) by reading the article below, and watching this great video to pick up on some questions to ask, and some not-so-subtle clues that anxiety is something to consider.
Article: The Two Questions All Parents of Young Kids Should Ask Themselves
And when you are ready to get some help, we are always here – Be Wise!
Dr. Amy Fortney Parks was recently featured on The Rant with Baeth podcast! In her interview with host Baeth Davis, Dr. Parks talks about how to parent, your kid’s happiness, social media and much much more. With over 25 years experience working with children, adolescents and families as both an educator and psychologist, Dr. Parks sheds light on the link between happiness and social media, why parents are NOT responsible for their child’s happiness and how we all parent in different ways.
“What is it that you feel needs to happen for your family? What is that path that you want your family to be on?”
~Dr. Amy Fortney Parks
Tune into episode 38 Dr. Amy Fortney Parks –
Your Child’s Happiness is Not Your Job from the Rant with Baeth in Podcasts!
Until next week, Be Wise!
This week’s blog post brought to you by:
Kasey Cain, Resident in Counseling – Therapist for The Wise Family:
Communicating with our children is an age old conflict of parenting. Parents want to know the details of their children’s lives to keep them safe and guide them through the world. However, as children grow and develop, they require privacy and independence. Further complicating things is the disconnect between generations. The new generation almost always thinks “They just don’t understand!” or “The world is so different from when my parents were kids.”
And, this generation isn’t wrong. I always hate to give away my age but I can tell you that I am a part of the last generation to grow up without the internet. I got my first email account in college and have been learning to navigate the digital world since. The children I work with on a daily basis, though, have never lived in a world without the internet, cell phones, Google, etc. I like to say that we are trying to teach them how to play on the playground, but their playground is nothing like the one we experienced. So, we do our best and hope and wish and search for ways to connect to our kids.
Even before I had my own children, I worked in education and interacted with children on a daily basis. I found that the younger kiddos (PreK and K) were easy to engage with and gave their love and trust freely. As kids got older, they became more reluctant to trust and connect. And then as they entered the “tween-ager” years it was extremely challenging to learn about not only their thoughts and feelings, but even simple facts about their day. I find myself constantly referring to and recommending the book How to Talk so Kids Will Listen & Listen so Kids will Talk. Written by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish and originally published in 1980, this book remains relevant and helpful. It provides specific examples and exercises that you can practice (try with a friend first) to improve your communication skills with children.
Sometimes we don’t have time to read an entire book so I am also a fan of the following lists that can be printed out, posted, or saved to a phone, and quickly referenced. A quick Google search will yield an extensive list of “ways to ask your kids ‘how was school today’ without actually using those words. Some of my favorites include:
- Tell me something that made you laugh today.
- How did you help somebody today?
- Who did you sit with at lunch today?
- If you were the teacher tomorrow, what would you teach the class?
It is also fun to have a regular ritual, maybe at dinner or the car ride home, where everyone shares an “up” and a “down” – something they liked about the day and something less pleasant. Starting this early helps keep the momentum going into the teen years. Most importantly, don’t be discouraged if your child doesn’t want to tell you everything. Remember, we are not their best friends. We are their parents. Encourage open conversation and be clear that you are there for them for better or worse. Show that you are willing to listen.
And don’t forget, when we truly listen, we must be silent. (Just move the letters around in listen and you can switch it to silent!)
Until next week, Be Wise!
Do you suffer from anxiety? Does your child? Partner? Exciting news! The Wise Family will be hosting a screening of the movie, ANGST, at First Baptist Church in Alexandria. ANGST is an IndieFlix Original documentary about anxiety. It’s a 55 minute film and virtual reality experience that explores anxiety, its causes, its effects and what we can do about it. The film includes interviews with kids, teens, experts and parents. The goal specifically is to help people identity and understand the symptoms of anxiety and encourage them to reach out for help. Appropriate for ages 10 and up.
The screening will take place on Tuesday, May 8th at First Baptist Church in Alexandria at 7pm.
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