Ignore Your Kids

July 27, 2016

Yes, you read that right.  I have spent 18+ years ignoring my kids. I know that’s hard to imagine especially now while kids and teens are out of school for the summer!

Copy of How to Be Proud without Poisoning the Process Blog

  • I ignored my kid when he was picking his nose at the Kindergarten graduation while standing right next to the podium
  • I ignored the piles of pizza boxes, dirty napkins and soda cups littering the floor after the 10-kid sleepover
  • I ignored the $2000.00 on iTunes charged to my Visa card (well, I didn’t actually ignore that one but…)
  • I ignored the rolled eyes, stuck out tongues and gagging sounds when I served vegetables at the dinner table
  • I ignored the undone chores, the tantrums and the threats of bodily harm bantered between siblings

The best thing I have ever done has been to ignore my kids.  When I think about the days I have spent busily ignoring my children’s behavior, I feel proud.  Proud, you ask!?  Seriously!?

I’ve read all of the parenting books – I mean ALL of them – I have crazy advanced degrees in child development, psychology and education.  But the one thing I know that I have never read or been taught is the #1 thing I tell parents that I most strongly believe –

I believe that parents should ignore most of the stuff their kids do, but that they should pay attention to the quality of their character 100% of the time.

shutterstock_70864825smallCharacter is infinitely more important than nasal habits, trashed basements, always balanced diets and perfect behavior.  Character is the foundation of your family – and your child’s character is the foundation of their future family!  Your actions today are quite literally changing tomorrow.  That’s not something to ignore!

I would love to know what you believe about parenting and about your family!  Share your thoughts with me below – I read all of your comments and I want us to share our wisdom!


Be Wise!


2 thoughts on “Ignore Your Kids

  1. Thank you, this really hits home. I have a three and a half year old step daughter and I know I pay way too close attention to her meals, her manners, her behavior in general, while trying not to suck all the fun out of her being a child. I know this time is short and flies by. Today I will start ignoring and hopefully make her happy. 🙂

  2. I agree for the most part but have to add that I think consideration for others is a big part of character, So if the kid trashes the basement he needs to be managed to clean it up so somebody else doesn’t have to do the dirty work! If he’s picking his nose in public, it grosses other people out and potentially spreads germs.

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