Yes, you read that right. I have spent 18+ years ignoring my kids. I know that’s hard to imagine especially now while kids and teens are out of school for the summer!
The best thing I have ever done has been to ignore my kids. When I think about the days I have spent busily ignoring my children’s behavior, I feel proud. Proud, you ask!? Seriously!?
I’ve read all of the parenting books – I mean ALL of them – I have crazy advanced degrees in child development, psychology and education. But the one thing I know that I have never read or been taught is the #1 thing I tell parents that I most strongly believe –
I believe that parents should ignore most of the stuff their kids do, but that they should pay attention to the quality of their character 100% of the time.
Character is infinitely more important than nasal habits, trashed basements, always balanced diets and perfect behavior. Character is the foundation of your family – and your child’s character is the foundation of their future family! Your actions today are quite literally changing tomorrow. That’s not something to ignore!
I would love to know what you believe about parenting and about your family! Share your thoughts with me below – I read all of your comments and I want us to share our wisdom!
Be Wise!
Comments are closed.
“Oh my gosh, my daughter just thinks Grace is amazing and I am so glad that she has someone to talk to that isn’t me! She is so happy after her sessions! Thank you.”
— Mom of 15 year old client“Thank you so much for all you do and care for me. And all the work you do for my family. I {heart} you.”
— 10-year-old coaching client“We read through your website from start to finish and were so impressed by your extensive credentials and training but, the real reason why we want to work with you is your clear enthusiasm for children and families and the wisdom and deep love you share for both!”
— Mom of 12-year-old child with special needs
Thank you, this really hits home. I have a three and a half year old step daughter and I know I pay way too close attention to her meals, her manners, her behavior in general, while trying not to suck all the fun out of her being a child. I know this time is short and flies by. Today I will start ignoring and hopefully make her happy. 🙂
I agree for the most part but have to add that I think consideration for others is a big part of character, So if the kid trashes the basement he needs to be managed to clean it up so somebody else doesn’t have to do the dirty work! If he’s picking his nose in public, it grosses other people out and potentially spreads germs.