Yes, you read that right. I have spent 18 years ignoring my kids.
The best thing I have ever done has been to ignore my kids. When I think about the days I have spent busily ignoring my children’s behavior, I feel proud. Proud, you ask!? Seriously!?
I’ve read all of the parenting books – I mean ALL of them – I have crazy advanced degrees in child development, psychology and education. But the one thing I know that I have never read or been taught is the #1 thing I tell parents that I most strongly believe –
I believe that parents should ignore most of the stuff their kids do, but that they should pay attention to the quality of their character 100% of the time.
Character is infinitely more important than nasal habits, trashed basements, always balanced diets and perfect behavior. Character is the foundation of your family – and your child’s character is the foundation of their future family! Your actions today are quite literally changing tomorrow. That’s not something to ignore!
I would love to know what you believe about parenting and about your family! Share your thoughts with me below – I read all of your comments and I want us to share our wisdom!
“Dr. Amy talks about moving children from being externally-driven to internally-driven…and she helps you get there!”— Parent of 15-year-old daughter
“Dr. Amy brings together the best emotion-focused strategies with cutting-edge brain science to change the lives of children and families”— Parent of adopted twin girls
“Oh my gosh, my daughter just thinks Grace is amazing and I am so glad that she has someone to talk to that isn’t me! She is so happy after her sessions! Thank you.”— Mom of 15 year old client