Navigating the complexities of puberty can be a challenging experience for both teens and their parents. Parenting during puberty requires careful attention to the emotional and physical changes that accompany this stage of development. These changes often create stress and confusion, making it crucial for parents to approach these conversations with care and understanding. In this blog, we’ll explore practical strategies and insights to help parents effectively support their teens through this transformative time.
Supporting parents in discussing the emotional and physical changes of puberty with their teens is often a primary focus of counseling sessions. First, educating parents about the stressors that accompany puberty lays the foundation for creating environments where open discussions can occur. These discussions should affirm and inform teens and tweens about the natural changes they are experiencing.
However, parents sometimes dismiss the magnitude of the impact these changes have on young people during puberty. The changes in appearance, their bodies and how they function, their voices, skin, moods, and energy levels can overwhelm and confuse teens and tweens. In these moments, parents can help by being attentive and available.
Listening to and asking questions without sounding judgmental allows parents to be present and to better understand their child’s distress. By giving the child space to explore their feelings openly and encouraging questions, parents demonstrate care and concern. Additionally, parents can offer valuable information, share personal experiences, and suggest effective strategies for navigating these changes successfully.
This transitional period can be difficult for parents as well. Therefore, being open to seeking support and guidance not only helps parents manage their own challenges but also models for their child how to effectively seek knowledge and information.
We can assist parents in discussing the emotional and physical changes of puberty by following three steps with their teen or tween.
Step 1: Ask the teen what they already know about puberty and physical changes. Public schools often have a health class to teach students about their changing bodies and how to navigate those changes. They will cover what puberty is, how it is different for females and males, and what to expect when going through puberty.
Step 2: The next step is for the parents to give their child correct information about puberty and debunk common myths and misinformation.
Step 3: Use the conversation from Step 2 as an opportunity to advise your child, specifically on the topics of puberty that might be a little uncomfortable to talk about. When needed, therapists can also inform parents about how the brain changes during puberty and suggest coping skills that teens can use when they experience mental difficulties.
Parenting during puberty can be a daunting journey, but with the right tools and approach, parents can guide their teens through this transformative time with confidence and compassion. By staying informed, maintaining open communication, and seeking support when needed, you can help your teen navigate the emotional and physical changes of puberty successfully.
At Wise Family Wellness, we’re here to support you and your family every step of the way. If you have any questions or need guidance, please contact us and/or schedule a consultation.
Until next time, Be Wise!
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